Mind=Blown

I heard yesterday of a new trend among high school kids.  The girls who are saving themselves for marriage, and their boyfriends who aren't.  You would think that would be a deal breaker?  One wants sex, one refuses. The choices one would assume to be are that either the one who wants to remain pure gives in, or the one who wants the sex does without for the sake of the other, or they decide to breakup over this difference, or one secretly cheats on the other.  That's pretty much your options, right?  Apparently not anymore. According to what I heard yesterday, there is a new "normal" option for this predicament.   The girls who want to save themselves for marriage are openly allowing their boyfriends to fulfill his worldly urges with other girls, while still having the girlfriend.
There is so much wrong with this picture it makes my head spin.  If the guy really truly loved the girl, or shoot, if he even cared about her and her emotional well being, he should not want to be with others no matter how strong his urges may be.  Do these girls really think that once they marry this guy he is going to automatically give up his midnight escapades for his wife who allowed him to roam freely before the marriage? 
What I imagine is the boyfriend girlfriend go on their date, have a good time, maybe end in a few kisses as an appetizer.  She tells him bye and goes to her room to cry alone while the boy is out getting his cake and ice cream and whatever.  How damaging can this be to her self esteem, to her heart, her soul?!
What is this teaching the guy? That he can do what he wants when he wants with who he wants and his girlfriend or wife should be fine with that.  That integrity and honesty and love and faithfulness mean nothing.
What about the side girls? I imagine some are just along for their 15 minutes of fun with no strings, and while some may temporarily walk away not emotionally attached to the boy, some undoubtedly are developing feelings for these boys too.  Then they stand on the sidelines and watch as he and the original girlfriend go to prom?  How her self worth, self esteem, her heart is suffering as well.
Of course this could go the other way too, with the boy choosing to save himself and allowing his girlfriend to have her sides. 
I just want to cry for these kids.  They are playing with fire in so many ways.